Beliefs
So I was talking to my boss on Friday and he was saying that I could choose between calling him Dr X or just his first name - as he believes that respect needs to be earned and therefore i can call him by his first name in social circumstances if i want to.
Which got me thinking.
I think it is necessary to sort out our own belief system.
To recognise it and to keep it in check - to see if it is realistic, if it is what you want in life, if it works out for you, if it is fair on others.
And modify it when it becomes out of date and harmful.
It is my blueprint on how to manage life.
It is the way i can be assertive about my own needs and expectations and my way of ensuring I function the best way I believe i can.
Assertive without being overbearing.
However i also believe that no one deserves upmost respect simply due to their status
i.e. i am not willing to worship someone just because they have grey hair. I will respect them, but they have to prove that they deserve to be worshipped.
Family
I believe that family comes first above all other people.
However, even with family members, the above respect still applies
Friends
I believe that if I treat my friends right, they will treat me back rightly in their own way. That means that i shall not expect in return what i do for them - i do as i do for them because they are my friends, not because i want something back.
I believe that friends are more important in quality and not quantity.
I believe that one needs certain criteria to be labelled as a friend. Similarly, i do not believe i am someone's friend unless i have reasons to believe that i have done enough for them to consider me a friend. And even then that doesn't mean i expect them to consider me as a proper friend.
I believe in classifying the level of relationship between others in this world and their importance to me in the order of: Family, Close friends, Friends, Acquaintances, Strangers.
Work
I believe in commitment to work and that means I take a long time making decisions about what to do. I want to stick to my decisions in my career path.
I believe in 有頭有尾 - if i start something, i want to finish something
I believe that the most reliable person, to myself, is me - if i absolutely want something to be done, i have to do it myself. If i absolutely want something to be done my way, i have to do it myself. If i choose to work as a team, then I must accept that other people have their own method of reaching their aim and I will accept it.
I believe that a promise is a promise
I believe that success can only be reached through hard work.
I don't believe in short cuts, no matter how tempting and alluring it may be.
Power
I believe that everyone should have their own freedom to persue what they like and enjoy and get what they want out of life.
Food
I believe that I shall eat all the food that i choose to eat and try my best to make sure they are not wasted.
Relationship
I believe in an open relationship, one where everything can be discussed and shared
I believe in an equal relationship, where balance and equality is naturally maintained and the needs are shared
I believe in a relationship where the love is mutual; the balance is not more one way or the other i.e. not being with someone who i like more than they like me or vice versa.
I believe in that trust is one of the pillars of a successful relationship.
I believe that the removal of attention is as severe a punishment in close relationships as punishments needs to be. I don't believe in detrimental punishment.
I believe in communication. I am very happy to listen to other's inside mind, but i want to be listened to too.
I believe in understanding. I will try my best to understand where others are coming from and what their diverse experiences may have been, together with what their respective emotional states may have been. Everyone has their fascinating background.
I believe in non-coersion. I want others to do things that they truly want to, not because they feel that they have to.
Apology
I believe that everyone will make mistakes.
I believe that all mistakes shall be forgiven. However - apology must be made sincerely, timely, and the apology must be proper i.e. one must know what the mistake was, why the mistake was made, and how the mistake can be improved.
I believe that everyone needs to know how to apologise
I believe that everyone needs to know how to accept an apology
I believe that everyone needs to know how to let go. Let the past be the past and not take over the present.
Karma
I believe that our actions affect our consequences.
I believe that a kind heart leads to the desired future - simply because a kind heart will find fortune, luck and happiness in any situation they find themselves in.
I believe that bad deeds lead to bad consequences, in one form or another, recognised or unrecognised.
I believe that the heart is linked to the appearance. A kind heart has a kind appearance/aura, and so does an evil heart.
I believe in 人性本善 - that the default human nature is kindness.
Which got me thinking.
I think it is necessary to sort out our own belief system.
To recognise it and to keep it in check - to see if it is realistic, if it is what you want in life, if it works out for you, if it is fair on others.
And modify it when it becomes out of date and harmful.
It is my blueprint on how to manage life.
It is the way i can be assertive about my own needs and expectations and my way of ensuring I function the best way I believe i can.
Assertive without being overbearing.
Respect
I believe that everyone deserves respect unless they prove themselves worthless.However i also believe that no one deserves upmost respect simply due to their status
i.e. i am not willing to worship someone just because they have grey hair. I will respect them, but they have to prove that they deserve to be worshipped.
Family
I believe that family comes first above all other people.
However, even with family members, the above respect still applies
Friends
I believe that if I treat my friends right, they will treat me back rightly in their own way. That means that i shall not expect in return what i do for them - i do as i do for them because they are my friends, not because i want something back.
I believe that friends are more important in quality and not quantity.
I believe that one needs certain criteria to be labelled as a friend. Similarly, i do not believe i am someone's friend unless i have reasons to believe that i have done enough for them to consider me a friend. And even then that doesn't mean i expect them to consider me as a proper friend.
I believe in classifying the level of relationship between others in this world and their importance to me in the order of: Family, Close friends, Friends, Acquaintances, Strangers.
Work
I believe in commitment to work and that means I take a long time making decisions about what to do. I want to stick to my decisions in my career path.
I believe in 有頭有尾 - if i start something, i want to finish something
I believe that the most reliable person, to myself, is me - if i absolutely want something to be done, i have to do it myself. If i absolutely want something to be done my way, i have to do it myself. If i choose to work as a team, then I must accept that other people have their own method of reaching their aim and I will accept it.
I believe that a promise is a promise
I believe that success can only be reached through hard work.
I don't believe in short cuts, no matter how tempting and alluring it may be.
Power
I believe that everyone should have their own freedom to persue what they like and enjoy and get what they want out of life.
Food
I believe that I shall eat all the food that i choose to eat and try my best to make sure they are not wasted.
Relationship
I believe in an open relationship, one where everything can be discussed and shared
I believe in an equal relationship, where balance and equality is naturally maintained and the needs are shared
I believe in a relationship where the love is mutual; the balance is not more one way or the other i.e. not being with someone who i like more than they like me or vice versa.
I believe in that trust is one of the pillars of a successful relationship.
I believe that the removal of attention is as severe a punishment in close relationships as punishments needs to be. I don't believe in detrimental punishment.
I believe in communication. I am very happy to listen to other's inside mind, but i want to be listened to too.
I believe in understanding. I will try my best to understand where others are coming from and what their diverse experiences may have been, together with what their respective emotional states may have been. Everyone has their fascinating background.
I believe in non-coersion. I want others to do things that they truly want to, not because they feel that they have to.
Apology
I believe that everyone will make mistakes.
I believe that all mistakes shall be forgiven. However - apology must be made sincerely, timely, and the apology must be proper i.e. one must know what the mistake was, why the mistake was made, and how the mistake can be improved.
I believe that everyone needs to know how to apologise
I believe that everyone needs to know how to accept an apology
I believe that everyone needs to know how to let go. Let the past be the past and not take over the present.
Karma
I believe that our actions affect our consequences.
I believe that a kind heart leads to the desired future - simply because a kind heart will find fortune, luck and happiness in any situation they find themselves in.
I believe that bad deeds lead to bad consequences, in one form or another, recognised or unrecognised.
I believe that the heart is linked to the appearance. A kind heart has a kind appearance/aura, and so does an evil heart.
I believe in 人性本善 - that the default human nature is kindness.
So, what are YOUR beliefs?
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