A, B, C and D
Made up this story in my head today, feel like telling it. This is a story abt a group of friends A, B, C and D.
A and B first met each other in primary school, and became fast friends in Intermediate. C was one of the first new friends they made when they started highschool, and by the time the first term ended, A B and C were fast friends, forming their own group. D happened to change classes in term 2 and ended up in the same class as A B and C. Initially shy and more reserved, D thought A B and C were a hardworking and tight group of classmates who always did well in exams and always hanged out together in interval and lunch times, and since D was in a new class and had little friends from that class, D started to hang out with A B and C during the breaks. The friendship took over a year to develop and eventually by the 2nd yr of highschool, the group of 3 friends expanded to a group of 4 friends. This remained constant throughout highschool. A B C and D played the same musical instruments, participated in the same orchestra, played badminton and table tennis for the school together, and often worked in group assignments together as well. Outside of school they often go to movies, play sports in the weekend together as well.
After A B C and D graduated, A B and C continued to be classmates by doing the same degree. D chose to do something else. Over the university years, A B and C continued the same activities as in highschool - similar group activities etc. By this time however their social circle of friends have become more diverse and they now have more classmates than before. Replacing D in the group was E, who seemed to click with A B and C as a group well. B however, developed feelings for E and after a certain courtship ritual E was touched and they started going out. By the 2nd half of the 1st university year one day, B approached D in the library with a friend, and said "There's something you should know" and that's when B announced that he's going out with F whom he met 1 year ago. However D at that time already heard the rumours and knew before B and F decided to approach and tell D.
A B C and D then embarked on an overseas holiday trip that they planned since form 6 to asia, which finally got parental approval and happened. The big trip ended up with A forming a relationship with someone overseas, and eventually they went their separate ways. So A returned to NZ, and moped around for a while. A however met G that year and even though G likes A, they agreed to be just friends until A can get over the overseas girl. Eventually A made a trip to see the overseas girl overseas, got his heart kinda crushed, and came back. After a few months, A asked G out, and in the same week that that happened, both G and A asked D out for a coffee and A said "I've got something to tell you" and D immediately guessed that A and G got together. A found it relieving that D did not draw out the process by making A say the obvious.
C and E's relationship eventually broke up, however their feelings are mixed and while a part of their link is now missing, other parts are still painfully there and what happens in the future is still up for grabs.
D knew that D was the outsider in that ABCD group from the start, and over the years, D will now finally see the group transform into AgBfC(?e) ...
And D you say? DddDDdddDdd?
D realises now that its time to move on. Maybe not right now, but D is starting to prepare.
Because eventually D is going to leave. And when D leaves, there will be no "group of friends waiting at home for D" as D is no longer part of that group.
That group of friends, however, will remain in D's memory. And D will be looking for other groups with similar properties to insert itself into. Or maybe D won't.
D wishes luck to people in relationships.
A and B first met each other in primary school, and became fast friends in Intermediate. C was one of the first new friends they made when they started highschool, and by the time the first term ended, A B and C were fast friends, forming their own group. D happened to change classes in term 2 and ended up in the same class as A B and C. Initially shy and more reserved, D thought A B and C were a hardworking and tight group of classmates who always did well in exams and always hanged out together in interval and lunch times, and since D was in a new class and had little friends from that class, D started to hang out with A B and C during the breaks. The friendship took over a year to develop and eventually by the 2nd yr of highschool, the group of 3 friends expanded to a group of 4 friends. This remained constant throughout highschool. A B C and D played the same musical instruments, participated in the same orchestra, played badminton and table tennis for the school together, and often worked in group assignments together as well. Outside of school they often go to movies, play sports in the weekend together as well.
After A B C and D graduated, A B and C continued to be classmates by doing the same degree. D chose to do something else. Over the university years, A B and C continued the same activities as in highschool - similar group activities etc. By this time however their social circle of friends have become more diverse and they now have more classmates than before. Replacing D in the group was E, who seemed to click with A B and C as a group well. B however, developed feelings for E and after a certain courtship ritual E was touched and they started going out. By the 2nd half of the 1st university year one day, B approached D in the library with a friend, and said "There's something you should know" and that's when B announced that he's going out with F whom he met 1 year ago. However D at that time already heard the rumours and knew before B and F decided to approach and tell D.
A B C and D then embarked on an overseas holiday trip that they planned since form 6 to asia, which finally got parental approval and happened. The big trip ended up with A forming a relationship with someone overseas, and eventually they went their separate ways. So A returned to NZ, and moped around for a while. A however met G that year and even though G likes A, they agreed to be just friends until A can get over the overseas girl. Eventually A made a trip to see the overseas girl overseas, got his heart kinda crushed, and came back. After a few months, A asked G out, and in the same week that that happened, both G and A asked D out for a coffee and A said "I've got something to tell you" and D immediately guessed that A and G got together. A found it relieving that D did not draw out the process by making A say the obvious.
C and E's relationship eventually broke up, however their feelings are mixed and while a part of their link is now missing, other parts are still painfully there and what happens in the future is still up for grabs.
D knew that D was the outsider in that ABCD group from the start, and over the years, D will now finally see the group transform into AgBfC(?e) ...
And D you say? DddDDdddDdd?
D realises now that its time to move on. Maybe not right now, but D is starting to prepare.
Because eventually D is going to leave. And when D leaves, there will be no "group of friends waiting at home for D" as D is no longer part of that group.
That group of friends, however, will remain in D's memory. And D will be looking for other groups with similar properties to insert itself into. Or maybe D won't.
D wishes luck to people in relationships.
You know, D is still as much as part of that group however in some ways it feels like D left A,B and C probably because D chose not to hang out with A,B,C and their growing circle of friends in the 1st year of University. Guess there is a lot of misunderstanding that can sometimes snowball into the end of friendships eh?
ReplyDeleteAnd don't mean to be pedantic but I think in the 3rd paragraph it should be C, not B who developed feelings for E otherwise I think B and F have some unresolved issues to sort out. And just to set the record straight I think F had already been nagging an awfully long time for B to tell D about the relationship.
I guess the group has expanded a bit but I don't think D should see it as AG BF CE and D but rather as ABCDEFG (one hopes anyway). And if anything I think D has forgotten to mention H,I,J and K were they not also part of the group?
F cares alot for D as a friend and hopes D knows that. F also knows that D has run into a mountain of difficulties right now and can kinda see why this story has come about. F also realises that D had more to say on Friday over ice cream and F is sorry about running off to fulfil other commitments.
If D has problems with ABC then I think D should get up and do something about it like face the problem head on and tell ABC. F knows for a fact that ABC don't really read this blog and if ABC don't even realise there is a problem then how can they ever start on the road to fixing it? Once D has told them it is really up to ABC if they want to do something about it or not. If D realises there is a problem and chooses to be passive then maybe D has CHOSEN not to be a part of that group as opposed to being excluded from it?
Nothing in life comes free, including friendships. Everything that is worth anything requires some price to be paid whether the price is time, effort, love... whatever. With all due respect I don't think D can sit stil watching life go by and expect all the good things to come. Life in general, but particularly relationships are situations of give-and-take and require the participants to be proACTIVE in order for it to work. F has learnt this the hard way and advises D to look back and see if he has invested as much into that relationship with ABC as he is expecting to get back?
Anyway, this story is making my head spin so I'll leave it at that.
Good luck to D in the future whatever the decision.
I had diligently finished the story, and it was so confusing as it developed, so I have no comment to make, because it'll just be none-of-my-business.
ReplyDeleteNice Story, hope you have found something to learn from it.