Simple disrespect
So last year, near exam time, i thought one of my classmates would benefit from looking at one of my assignments that i'd already done so i emailed it to him without him asking me.
Just thought i'd help.
Then today, i was randomly chatting to one of the 5th years and she thanked me for my assignment.
WHAT THE F***?!
Ok, so i'm a bit pissed.
Then i got home, just now, got another text from someone else saying "thanks for your assignment"
WHat the F*** shit!?
So i went onto msn and had told the illegal distributor:
me: Sorry to be a bit anal, but, i feel a bit disrespected that you are distributing my assignment without my consent.
him: Sorry i didn't know that.
Me: that is all, g'nite
And then 10min later he comes on to tell me that i should have given him a chance to explain, and that he didn't think it was a big deal at all, and that i was rude by going away suddenly (which was to answer a phone call as i told him later, so i cut the conversation short)
To me, the assignment had MY name on it, it was my work, of course, with a great deal of help from other people - that contributed to my assignment.
I feel that I HAVE the RIGHT to be the one controlling who's hands my assignments end up.
Hell, he thought that the pple he gave it to were friends.
I feel that if those people, whom i kinda know as well, want my assignment, they should come and ask me for it.
I not only feel violated that my permission wasn't sort for when my assignment was given away, but that the other person can just give my assignment away and take the honour of "helping" the other person.
And even after i told him that i find this disrespectful, he tells me that i'm making this a bigger deal than necessary.
Yup, conflict of values.
If my friend was to give me their assignment, i will not pass it on to others without their knowledge. At least a txt, or something, to say "oh, i've given your assignment to xxx" or "can i pass your assignment to xxx?"
But no, nothing at all. I had to find out from other people.
And wats next? My assignment will then flow out from those 2 people and maybe everyone will have it.
Don't get me wrong, i don't care if they all copy it. I never cared about that in the 1st place - which is why i gave out the assignment myself.
Anyways, i've made known my feelings about being disrespected. Since it is barely acknowledged, and not given importance, then i know what the next step will be.
The grief for the lost of a friendship.
And i'll get over it.
Life goes on, doesn't it?
Just thought i'd help.
Then today, i was randomly chatting to one of the 5th years and she thanked me for my assignment.
WHAT THE F***?!
Ok, so i'm a bit pissed.
Then i got home, just now, got another text from someone else saying "thanks for your assignment"
WHat the F*** shit!?
So i went onto msn and had told the illegal distributor:
me: Sorry to be a bit anal, but, i feel a bit disrespected that you are distributing my assignment without my consent.
him: Sorry i didn't know that.
Me: that is all, g'nite
And then 10min later he comes on to tell me that i should have given him a chance to explain, and that he didn't think it was a big deal at all, and that i was rude by going away suddenly (which was to answer a phone call as i told him later, so i cut the conversation short)
To me, the assignment had MY name on it, it was my work, of course, with a great deal of help from other people - that contributed to my assignment.
I feel that I HAVE the RIGHT to be the one controlling who's hands my assignments end up.
Hell, he thought that the pple he gave it to were friends.
I feel that if those people, whom i kinda know as well, want my assignment, they should come and ask me for it.
I not only feel violated that my permission wasn't sort for when my assignment was given away, but that the other person can just give my assignment away and take the honour of "helping" the other person.
And even after i told him that i find this disrespectful, he tells me that i'm making this a bigger deal than necessary.
Yup, conflict of values.
If my friend was to give me their assignment, i will not pass it on to others without their knowledge. At least a txt, or something, to say "oh, i've given your assignment to xxx" or "can i pass your assignment to xxx?"
But no, nothing at all. I had to find out from other people.
And wats next? My assignment will then flow out from those 2 people and maybe everyone will have it.
Don't get me wrong, i don't care if they all copy it. I never cared about that in the 1st place - which is why i gave out the assignment myself.
Anyways, i've made known my feelings about being disrespected. Since it is barely acknowledged, and not given importance, then i know what the next step will be.
The grief for the lost of a friendship.
And i'll get over it.
Life goes on, doesn't it?
Sometimes, its not worth losing a friend over a bit of idiot behaviour from that friend. Put urself in that person's position: the year is over, the assignment is over, whats the big deal about it anymore? I am not saying what he did was right, he should totally have checked with u first....But i guess it just didnt occur to him. But is it worth losing a friend over this, thats the question u gotta ask, i guess....
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